You have a set of firm boundaries
established (see previous post on the subject). Someone just crossed them. Now
what do you do? It depends on the
severity of the infraction. The punishment has to fit the crime. If someone
made an inappropriate comment, you most likely should not hit him on the head
repeatedly with a baseball bat. But if someone is trying to kill you, the later
might be a proper alternative.
But once
again, I seem to repeat myself a lot on this subject, you need to decide NOW
what the range of reactions vs. infractions should be. If you don’t decide now and wait till you are
put on the spot to make a choice you might just freeze or make a totally
inappropriate decisions. Depending on the severity of the circumstance, it just
may cost you your life.
When you come to a stop
sign, you don’t need to take time to decide what to do. You know you are
supposed to stop. When it starts to
rain, you turn on your windshield wipers. Why? Because you already have
pre-decided that this is the proper course of action. You don’t have to think
“hmmm, let’s see its raining, maybe I should turn on the radio first, to see if
it’s going to stop soon.” Or “Let’s see, the light just turned red, I know
there is a semi coming across right now but I am not sure if I should stop, I
stopped last time. What will people think if I stop again.”. No, you don’t have
to decide again because you have already decided what you are going to do. Same should go for your personal safety. You should know what course of actions you
will take. Of course every situation is different and will require some
modifications. But you should have a general plan of action to get you started
without having to stop and think, otherwise you are wasting time and sending
the wrong message.
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