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Saturday, July 26, 2014

Keep your kids safe

Never forget to talk to your kids about safety. Do not get them paranoid but make understand what "normal behavior" looks like. Getting in a car with a total stranger is not "normal" or a good thing. A stranger offering you a free puppy or candy is NOT normal. If you need to send someone to pick up your kids make sure they know them or call the school to let them know what is going on. This is YOUR responsibility
Teach them to not be afraid to run away or scream for help if something is not "right". If someone grabs them, they need to give themselves permission to kick, punch, bite, scream and do what needs to be done to get away.
As much as we want our kids to learn to obey and behave, do not do so at the risk of crippling their instinct. They do NOT have to obey ALL grown ups. If something is not right, teach them to trust their instinct and run!!!!
Teach them to be assertive. Now that's real bully prevention
Remember there is a difference between being mean, aggressive and assertive. Draw the line!!!
Be smart,stay safe

Friday, July 18, 2014

Taxi safety

People who travel or use taxis, here is a tip. Check the door lock before you sit in and claim the cab for yours. I am not saying that this particular driver will kidnap you or is a "bad guy" (not saying he isn't either), but with a defective door lock getting in a car accident could prove to be a very bad thing. And there is another reason I always travel with knives, one that has a glass breaker.
Food for thought

Be smart, stay safe!

Tuesday, June 24, 2014

Paranoia will destroy ya

I love to run in the wooded trails during the weekends. It’s peaceful. By the nature of the trail, it is an  interval training, which I love so much. The convoluted paths, the rocks, the holes, the stumps, the fallen branches, the mud, the water puddles, the sand….. always unexpected, always different.
I have a full cataract in one eye so it makes paying attention to the obstacles in the path a bit more challenging as my depth perception is very limited, and my downward vision with glasses is fuzzy at best. But I love a challenge!!!

In previous posts I talked about paying attention to the surroundings instead of just staring at the path. This is now my biggest challenge. I normally direct my gaze left, front, right, down…. and I keep rotating so I have a good view of everything going around. This has now become difficult to perform. I need my eyes on the trail to avoid stumbling.

So Lise…. you genius… how about you use your training. How about you use what you preach. When you are in a public area, amongst a crowd, what do you do. Do you just stare everywhere? No… you pay attention to disturbances, to things that “do not belong there”. So how about you do the same thing in the woods brainiac!!!

Perfect!!  So what belongs in the woods? Trees, small and big, rocks, dirt, fallen branches, squirrels, birds,  undergrowth. Got it. You first have to understand what “good” is before you are able to see “bad”. Now I have a clear mental image of what belongs there. It is programmed in my brain I can now focus on the trail and keep my peripheral vision on things that might stick out. The first few times I did this, I found nothing out of the ordinary, nothing that stuck out.  Last weekend, as I was running along the trail my spidey sense went off. Something was wrong. I did not know right away what it was. My eyes got pulled toward the right. Something did not belong in the picture. Turned out that it was a man standing about 15-20 feet away in the thicket, blending in quite well may I add. That’s not normal. I looked at him pointing a finger in his direction, acknowledging the fact that I had seen him. No aggressive behavior on my part as I did not really know what he was doing or why he was there. (Reflecting on it after the fact, if I was a betting woman, I’d say he was probably looking for a place to void his bladder). But I kept him in check, looking for an abnormal or aggressive  behavior on his part. I knew he was deep enough in the thicket that I would have had time to get away if I needed to or at least time to get prepared. But nothing happened, so my guess was probably right on. Either that or he chose to wait for an easier, more unaware prey.

The fact is that if I would have spent my time looking for something that could hurt me, I would have been running paranoid, I would have been starring in every directions to know what was going on, risking falling flat on my face. By programming my brain to the things that were supposed to be there, my subconscious was able to pick up anomalies without having to turn me into a paranoiac. This makes a run fun and safe.

Be smart, stay safe.

Thursday, May 15, 2014

Woman fights off attacker

This is a great example on many levels.
First we see the woman “froze” and obeyed her command like the good girl she was raised to be. But thanks goodness her freeze broke when her attacker moved. She realized that she had to do something, anything, or she would die. Elbow in the face is totally legit. When this created a few milli-seconds of “freedom” she used them wisely by running away... TOWARD SAFETY. She did not worry about picking up her possession. They are not worth dying for. She ran to a neighbor and called the police. Her entire reaction most likely saved her life.
Having had a quick response when she first was grabbed from behind would have been ideal. This is when good conditioning comes in handy. But a freeze is a normal reaction. You just need to make sure you break away from the said freeze as quickly as possible. Again, good conditioning will help you recognize the freeze and break away from it. Then do NOT stay and duke it out with your attacker if there is any way possible for you to run toward safety. This is not the time and place to teach him a lesson. Any time you get attacked, your life may be on the line. When weapons are introduced, the stakes have just risen to lethal force.

Be smart, stay safe!!!

Saturday, April 12, 2014

Woman kills hit man hired by husband

When things are NOT going your way and the force disparity is against you, you need to up your level of force. Her life was on the line, she needed to use deadly force against her attacker. You don't need to be strong to crush a man's throat. It requires roughly the same amount of strength than to crush a soda can. But you do need to be able to make that decision and carry it through. Your life is worth it. Make sure you are justify to do so and that you can explain why you did it. He came into her home, he was bigger and stronger than her, and he had every intent to kill her. He had intent, means, opportunity and there was no preclusion. Case closed.

Woman who killed hit man hired by husband has message - CBS 5 - KPHO

Monday, March 31, 2014

Think ahead

When you have to be in areas where the odds of being attacked are higher, make sure you increase YOUR odds of not getting attacked. If you don't have a dog like she does, use common sense: pay attention, do not let anyone get uncomfortably close to you, if something looks strange.... get out of there!