Saturday, July 31, 2010
If you get hurt, you get shot or cut, the odds are you will survive if you do not panic. Going into mental shock will kill you faster than the physical shock. If you can think and feel, you can still fight, you can still run away. Battlefield statistics show that if you are not killed instantly, you will not die from your injuries. The medical field can perform miracles nowadays. This is not the 1600s when you could die from a paper cut.
SO NEVER GIVE UP. You should ALWAYS keep on fighting. Ride that adrenaline dump, use it to your advantage
You hear all the time, people that have been critically shot and still manage to take their opponent down. It’s not a miracle; it is simply a mental attitude. I WILL survive. I REFUSE to die. I WILL cheat death
Ever played cowboy and Indian, cops and robber or the likes when you were a kid? Ever had to deal with that one kid that no matter how many times you shot him, he refused to play dead, to play by the rules? This should be your attitude if you get stuck in a violent encounter.
Be like the energizer bunny... just keep on going
Thursday, July 29, 2010
1. “I am hurt, he is right I am so _________” (fill in the blank)
2. “I am so angry at him for daring to do/say this to me.”
3. “He is not worth my time.”
4. “You know this sting but he is right. This is a flaw I have. I should work on this”
#1. This will bring feelings of unworthiness. You have locked your mind. You probably do not realize this is an issue with you but still you are clinging to it, you are hiding behind it, using it a shield. It may be because you have no idea how to deal with it or because it is too large of a task.
#2. If you got this angry, he has apparently touched a nerve. This is a serious issue with you and it consciously or unconsciously bothers you. It may stem from a much deeper issue. This is something you would like changed in you but either you do not know how or you do not want to go through the hard work of changing it. You will make him wrong or demean him to make yourself right, to feel better about not changing. The level of anger it produced is proportional to the level of importance you attach to the problem.
#3. This is a much healthier choice. You are recognizing the person for an emotional abuser and refuse to yield to him.
#4. You have a true healthy positive outlook on yourself. You are able to see the good and bad and you are not afraid to work on the issues that need to be addressed.
Of course there can be a mixture of 1, 2, 3 and 4 combine together in some degree. Evaluate which one dominates the most.
When you squeeze an orange, you get orange juice. When someone applies pressure to you, what do you have? This is a great insight into the mind.
Tuesday, July 20, 2010
Peace is a choice. The only people who can truly have Peace are those who have the capability to make that choice. If you are completely at the mercy of others, you will never be able to determine the course of an encounter, then they choose for you…. Peace or war. This goes for violent encounters, business or life decisions as well. All good training can be applied to life. But since this is a self defense site we will focus on self defense. The first basic concept in good self defense is to take control of your opponent’s center (physical or spirit). You need to control this from the beginning. Once you do control it, you have the power of choice: to injure or protect your attacker…. Peace or War…. Only when you have this control can you truly choose peace. So train well then you can choose peace
Monday, July 19, 2010
Thursday, July 15, 2010
Tuesday, July 13, 2010
Any fact facing us is not as important as our attitude toward it, for that determines our success or failure. The way you think about a fact may defeat you before you ever do anything about it. You are overcome by the fact because you think you are.”
- Norman Vincent Peale
We have so many ingrained notions, things we should do, things we should not do, things we can’t do, ways we should behave. Some of those are good from a social point of view. But how many of those are creating hurdles and walls in our lives. Are you letting your attacker win before he even attacks you?
Start thinking outside of the box.
What “fact” are you letting win over yourself?
Monday, July 12, 2010
Please send your results back to Lise.firstname.lastname@example.org Jst cut and paste, fill in and end. Very easy.
I am doing a compilation of women’s concerns, worries and issues regarding self defense, self protection and general welfare. We are reviewing our training to make sure it fits toward today’s needs and wants. In order to do so I am conducting a short survey. No names are necessary unless you wish to do so. Personal information will be kept confidential and will NOT be shared with anyone. Just mention your age since this variable is very relevant. Please take a few minutes to help me help you better. Feel free to pass this survey out to your friends and relative as we are trying to get the widest perspective possible. If you find some questions too difficult to answer, just skip and fill out the rest. I would rather have a partial survey and than none at all.
When you have completed the survey you can either email it or snail mail it.
Thank you very much for your time and help in this matter. I truly appreciate it.
Please take time to help other women.
1. Do you feel threatened in your daily life/ activities? ______________
2. Are you concerns with break ins?______________________________
3. Are you concerns with your work place? ________________________
4. What type of work, outside of the home, do you do? _________________
5. Are you concerned that certain friends you have may hurt you (physically or emotionally)?__________________________________________
6. Are you concerned that certain relatives you have may hurt you (physically or emotionally)?_______________________________________________
7. Do you frequently go to establishments where drinking is permitted (bars, clubs, etc) ? ___________________________________________________
8. Are you concerned about date rape? _____________________________
9. Have you ever been attacked or assaulted? _________________________
10. If yes to the last question, are you concerned it will happen again? ______
11. Have you ever been subjected to a violent crime? ____________________
12. If yes to the last question, were you injured in the process? ____________
13. Did you ever experience a criminal pretending to be a delivery person or repairman or such? ___________________________________________
14. If yes to the last question, did you fall prey to them? __________________
15. Have you been subjected to domestic violence or abuse? ____________
16. Do you know anyone who has been subjected to a violent crime? _______
17. If yes to the last question, did it affect your view on your personal safety and if so how? _____________________________________________
18. Where do you live: city suburb country
19. Are you concerned with traveling? ______________________________
20. Do you travel outside of the country? ____________________________
21. Have you ever been stalked? ___________________________________
22. If yes to the last question, how did it end? ________________________
On a scale of 1 to 10, how do you rate the followings concerns:
• Being “pawed” in a bar or at a party 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
• Someone jumping out of the dark to attack you 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
• Carjacking 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
• Having your purse stolen out of your hands 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
• Someone breaking in your house while you are sleeping
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
• If you have children, concerns about their safety 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
• Being raped 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
• Innapropriate sexual conduct toward you 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
• Being hurt during a violent crime 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
• Losing material possessions 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
• Being emotionally abused 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
• Being held at gun point 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
• Being held at knife point 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
• Being shot 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
• Someone beating you up badly 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
• Being attacked by another woman 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
• Being attacked by a group of people 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
• Being abducted 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
• Being stuck in a violent relationship 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
• Racial crime 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
• Being stalked 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
COMMENTS: (anything that would cover violence or criminal attack or behavior that you are concerned about of have experienced. Details will be kept confidential. Use more paper if necessary.)
Friday, July 9, 2010
“When it is obvious that the goals cannot be reached, don't adjust the goals, adjust the action steps. “Confucius
If what you are doing is not working…. STOP… change to something that works then go for it. You might need to tweak a specific move if the mechanics of it are not applied properly. Doing it harder and faster will not make it work better.
Example: if you are trying to defend yourself by hitting a very large guy’s muscular chest, the only thing you might hurt is your hands. If you keep hitting it harder and faster, you will just make him mad.
It’s also like driving down the wrong road and realizing you are lost. If you start speeding it will not put you back on the right road but it just might get you a speeding ticket or in a car accident.
Try something that will work for you.
Physics work great if applied properly
Thursday, July 8, 2010
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Wednesday, July 7, 2010
An adult elephant is a mastodon big enough to tear most everything down and cause a lot of damage. The way they control a circus elephant is a simple process. They start when the elephant is very young. They secure him to a deeply entrenched stake, using a large and sturdy chain. Try as he may his small frame cannot overcome the chain he is attached to. After months of this treatment, the pattern gets set and the elephant knows with no uncertainty that he cannot break free. Thus comes the time to only tether him to a small rope. Now, he could break this rope without breaking a stride but when he reaches the point where he feels a slight resistance, he gives up without even trying. The habit is created. He is held in place by his own beliefs, by his past experiences and failures at breaking free.
We all have those strings that are holding us back with no reasons whatsoever but past experiences , failures, rejections or traumas. We encounter a slight resistance, a few difficulties and poof, we revert to that small elephant tied to a large chain.
What will it takes for us to break those strings and set ourselves free. It’s time to take a step back and really examine what is holding us back.
Tuesday, July 6, 2010
“I practiced for 8 hours a day since I was 6. And spent hours on the weekends taking private classes from the best and playing for hours and hours. Summer vacations simply meant more practice time, practice until I was as perfect as I could be. And they called that brilliant. I call it discipline.”
To be considered proficient in any field you should spend 10,000 hours of good practice time on it, which is basically 20 hours per week for 10 years. This takes dedication and passion.
Do you have anything you are passionate about??
Monday, July 5, 2010
Greatness is not about having all the answers but more so about having questions and not being afraid to look for answers. If you think you are perfect just the way you are or that you don’t need to change, “others” do, you will create stagnation in your life.
1-stagnation - a state of inactivity
2-stagnation - inactivity of liquids; being stagnant; standing still; without current or circulation
And we all know that stagnant water can be a major environmental hazard. It’s toxic, unsafe. Do NOT let your life become toxic.
Actions we may be performing daily, even unconsciously, most likely seem ideal to us. Then someone comes along doing it better and more efficiently. We have the choice to turn our heads and say “My way is still better because of this and that and this” OR we could say “What he/she is doing works much better, how can I learn to do it better”. Yes there may be a battle with your ego but your ego doesn’t keep you warm at night. I have seen time and time again people refusing to grow, becoming “stagnant” and most of the time their way to handle growth is by keeping others around them from growing, even having them regress. This way they keep being the big dog. But they will never know greatness. Greatness is being your best and helping others around you being their best. This way everyone keep each other growing and alive. There is no life in stagnation.
Today, let someone challenge you and learn from it.