Woman fights off attacker

This is a great example on many levels.

First we see the woman “froze” and obeyed her command like the good girl she was raised to be. But thanks goodness her freeze broke when her attacker moved. She realized that she had to do something, anything, or she would die. Elbow in the face is totally legit. When this created a few milli-seconds of “freedom” she used them wisely by running away... TOWARD SAFETY. She did not worry about picking up her possession. They are not worth dying for. She ran to a neighbor and called the police. Her entire reaction most likely saved her life.

Having had a quick response when she first was grabbed from behind would have been ideal. This is when good conditioning comes in handy. But a freeze is a normal reaction. You just need to make sure you break away from the said freeze as quickly as possible. Again, good conditioning will help you recognize the freeze and break away from it. Then do NOT stay and duke it out with your attacker if there is any way possible for you to run toward safety. This is not the time and place to teach him a lesson. Any time you get attacked, your life may be on the line. When weapons are introduced, the stakes have just risen to lethal force.

Be smart, stay safe!!!

Social conditionning

Good food for thought

Woman kills hit man hired by husband

When things are NOT going your way and the force disparity is against you, you need to up your level of force. Her life was on the line, she needed to use deadly force against her attacker. You don't need to be strong to crush a man's throat. It requires roughly the same amount of strength than to crush a soda can. But you do need to be able to make that decision and carry it through. Your life is worth it. Make sure you are justify to do so and that you can explain why you did it. He came into her home, he was bigger and stronger than her, and he had every intent to kill her. He had intent, means, opportunity and there was no preclusion. Case closed.

Woman who killed hit man hired by husband has message - CBS 5 - KPHO

Think ahead

When you have to be in areas where the odds of being attacked are higher, make sure you increase YOUR odds of not getting attacked. If you don't have a dog like she does, use common sense: pay attention, do not let anyone get uncomfortably close to you, if something looks strange.... get out of there!

Dangerous places

Can't say it enough.... Stay away from  where bad things happen and you will eliminate the biggest part of potential violence in your life

Eden: a sex slave’s story

Eden: a sex slave’s story

This is horrible and yes, it still exists nowadays, as much as we'd like to pretend it does not. But let's not waste all of the braveness this poor woman had to show and her willingness to share her experiences, and let's learn form this whole situation.

See how predators work. They hunt. Just like a hunter will seek it's prey, he chose them based on certain guidelines: the women's willingness to do anything for someone they don't even know, their unwillingness to fight back, their complete dismissal or unawareness of being "hunted". He was charming until it became time to blitz them and overpower them. Remember ladies, charming is a not a quality but an action. People are charming to obtain something they want. Always be worried of a stranger's willingness to charm you beyond what is "acceptable", beyond your rejection.

And if you ever find yourself stuck in a situation like this, you DO NOT have to obey him !!!...... "you’re going to do as I say’" should not be something that makes you wonder what YOU did wrong, but it should be a button that turns you into a mama bear. Fight fight fight and never give up!!!!!!!

Please share the basic info with your daughters. Do not let them become the next victim!!!!!

If you want more knowledge on the subject, we have an amazing class every Tuesday night that will teach you everything you need to know about violence :how to recognize it, how to avoid it, how to survive it, how to prevail!!!!

We don't have to "win"

Michonne is one smart cookie. She totally hit it on the nail. Self defense is NOT about wining, it's about going home safe and in one piece