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Thursday, February 25, 2010

FEAR is a tool not a master

If you get stuck in a confrontation, first of all it's important to remember to remain calm so you can think properly. Panic or anger always ends up creating a mess. It's a fact that calm and relaxed people are more conscious of their environments more apt to make good decisions and more in control of their fine motor skills.

The difference between fear and panic is knowing what to do. If you have a reliable, effective solution then fear is an asset. You know what to do and fear just makes you do it faster. On the other hand, it you don’t know what to do, or you don’t trust what you know, then you will freeze. You do this because you have no clear goal or way to get there. It is like driving aimlessly without directions or a road map. You might get there but it will take you a long time. And you don’t have a long time to deal with. What is the shortest boxing or fighting sporting match you have ever seen? The shortest I have seen was with Alexander Houston… 8 seconds… a record . Before that I believe the record was 48 seconds. Let’s split this in a happy medium, let’s take 30 seconds, which is still extremely hort for a fight. Now can you imagine going 30 seconds with a 250 lbs drunk biker armed with a knife?
An effective self defense strategy should get you out of danger in 3 moves or less or under 5 seconds. Anything else will get you hurt.

Monday, February 22, 2010

Superhuman ability

Aerodynamically, the bumble bee shouldn't be able to fly, but the bumble bee doesn't know it so it goes on flying anyway.
Superhuman ability is doing what human believe they can't do. You will be surprise how much superhuman abilities you really have when you put your mind to getting something done

Most small women think they could never hurt a 200+ lbs guy. So they won't try or they will give it a half hearted go, already having lost in their own mind. But take an 8 lb cat, he will have no preconcive notions of not being able to hurt that same guy. He will go at it without hesitation. He is a superhuman cat

Sunday, February 21, 2010

Winning mind set

It is better to avoid than run, better to run than fight, better to fight than die. So, if you MUST fight...Win!!! There are no rules, there is no silver medal for 2nd place. WIN

Thursday, February 18, 2010


Stalkers are like bullies in that they specialize in picking on people who won't call for help -- for whatever reason. They also specialize in picking on people who just want the problem to go away. And they especially like picking on people who -- no matter how competent they are normally -- are at a loss what to do when the social rules are violated. In other words people who will not mount an effective counter-offensive.

They are however, like cockroaches, in that they cannot withstand their actions being seen in the light. Calling in help, flicks the light on -- and EVERYBODY is watching him. The smart ones end up scurrying to for cover, the dumb ones end up squished.

Wednesday, February 17, 2010

Think outside of the box

Hell, there are no rules here - we're trying to accomplish something-
-Thomas A. Edison

That's the spirit you need to posses when it comes time to physically defend yourself. Think your attacker has rules?? Ethics? Moral values? You have to play like he does.
Ever played Chutes and Ladder with a child who is convinced that it's perfectly OK to go up the chute if it makes him win the game? This is the spirit you need to have. Save the "nice" and the "compassion" for yourself and your family. Think outside of the "I need to be nice to people" box that women have been taught to live in since forever. Do whatever you need to do to go home alive!!!!

Thursday, February 11, 2010

Be a winner

It is better to avoid than run, better to run than fight, better to fight than die. So, if you MUST fight...Win!!! There are no rules, there is no silver medal for 2nd place. WIN

Wednesday, February 10, 2010

This is an excerpt from one of my favorite expert on self defense, Rory Miller

"For a person to be seen as a valid and immediate threat, he must exhibits 3 elements: intent, means and opportunity.

*intent means he wants to hurt you
*means is his ability to hurt you: fist, knife, gun
*opportunity allow him to reach you with the means

If you can take one of these away he ceases to be a threat. If you can physically beat him up, you deny him his means. If you can run away, he is denied his opportunity. If you can change the threat's mind, you have altered his intent. Altering intent is a broad and potent skill. You can do it by projecting calm, bluffing, using humor, emitting an ear splitting scream, and a number of other ways."
-Rory Miller